Here are four suggestions of what you could use to tell your stylist if you’re not happy with the outcome of your hair’s colour.
We suggest that you pick one that matches your character and you should make sure you choose your words carefully.
We’ll also provide guidelines on what not to say or do.
In this way, you’ll be able to get the hair colour you’d like in your hair , and you’ll avoid making your stylist upset.
Although we don’t know the personality of your hairstylist, we can inform you that some stylists are extremely sensitive about their work. It’s no wonder since they devote their lives to their craft.
FOUR PHRASES YOU CAN SAY TO YOUR STYLIST IF YOU WEREN’T HAPPY WITH THE COLOUR RESULTS
“MARIA, THERE’S SOMETHING ABOUT THE COLOUR THAT DOESN’T QUITE CONVINCE ME. IT LOOKS TOO DARK. WHAT CAN WE DO?”
You’re telling her something you do not like. In the same way you’re engaging her in search of an alternative to the question.
Additionally you make use of a friendly tone. That is, you’re asking subtly for a change, yet you seem extremely pleasant. It’s nearly impossible to respond in a negative and angry way to kindness.
In this case it is suggested to change “Maria” with the name of your hairstylist.
Also, you can also change the “very dark” to whatever you dislike about your hair’s shade. The more specific you are when describing what you dislike about the shade the better.
Remember the fact that your hair stylist doesn’t work as a fortune-teller. If you inform her that “I don’t like the colour,” how do she possibly figure out what it means? It is imperative to be specific and precise in describing what it is you do not like.
The clarifications are also applicable to next sentences.
“MARIA, I’M WORRIED BECAUSE I SEE MY COLOUR SOMEWHAT DARK. WHAT DO YOU THINK?”
In this instance you’re sharing your emotions or feelings. While at the same time you’re requesting their opinions as an expert in the field.
There is no reason to be offended by another’s expression of their thoughts.
That is, you’re dissociating the work of a stylist from the stylist’s persona. So, you will not be making a statement of criticism, but rather it’s your opinion about the final result. We guarantee you that the stylist you choose to work with will wish the best for your hair.
“I LIKE THE IDEA OF A RISKY COLOUR CHANGE, BUT I THINK THIS WAY IS TOO MUCH.”
In this instance you’re emphasizing the positive parts, i.e. what you enjoyed regarding the work of the stylist. Then, you highlight an aspect that didn’t please you in the end.
Incorporating all positive aspects first creates an atmosphere of trust and confidence. It’s far superior to being defensive.
“YOU KNOW, THERE’S SOMETHING I DON’T QUITE LIKE, BUT I STILL CAN’T FIGURE OUT WHAT IT MIGHT BE”
In this instance you’re demonstrating that something doesn’t seem convincing to you. While doing this you’re engaging your stylist.
In the next step, the hairstylist could give you an opinion or even clarify their work better. It is possible for you to agree about the steps to continue. Thus, you’ll get the nearer result as you wanted to achieve.
So far, we’ve given you about four phrases that you can use to your stylist in order to convey that you’re unhappy with the shade.
Note that none contain an angry or accusatory tone. That’s the most important thing.
What we are about to tell you applies not just to hairdressing, but to nearly all aspects of life. The most dangerous thing you could do is be angry, because it will not help anything.
There’s a saying “You can catch more flies with honey than with vinegar.” This means that you’ll get more kindness than becoming annoyed or complaining.
This is why we would like to inform you of what not to do in any circumstance under these cases.
We suggest them to hairdressing salons because we understand two sides of the coin. On one hand, there are clients who aren’t entirely happy and the other is stylists have to resolve complaints from customers that are not always right. Like we mentioned, stylists can help you in other parts of your life as well.
WHAT TO AVOID WHEN TELLING YOUR STYLIST THAT YOU DON’T LIKE THE COLOUR
We have already told you not to be angry. It can create more problems than solutions. Always start from gentleness or compassion!
Do not start the conversation by saying: “WHAT DID YOU DO TO MY HAIR?.” Please avoid screaming and throwing tantrums.
Be aware that you are only required to inform your stylist about what you did not like, so that he/she can correct it in the best possible way. Avoiding confrontation or creating guilt as it isn’t the right way to go.
We’ve said that confrontation of the issue isn’t the answer. Remaining silent is always not the right way.
When you’re shy and not confident, don’t try to conceal your feelings. Instead, speak as openly as you can to ensure that your stylist will get the look you want.
Like you shouldn’t allow your anger to rule and win you all around, the same is true for shyness!
MAKING TOO MUCH DRAMA
Don’t be the “drama queen” nor take everything too personal. Your stylist put in great professionalism and effort. Do not forget that.
It’s possible that you didn’t like the outcome, but trust us, it’s not about being personal. You are free to discuss what you do not like, but do it with no tension – keep the drama in the soap-opera!
You may know someone who complains constantly.
She is always complaining about the weather, schedules and other people… in general, everything. Aren’t you finding her too whimsical ?
Don’t be one of those at the salon!
They’re not going to go much further than exhausting the patience of the listener. We’ve said it earlier, this isn’t what we’d like to see from your stylist or hair.
Keep in mind that if you are unhappy with your hair’s colour You can speak with your stylist about changing it.
Always use a positive tone, and use some of the phrases mentioned in the beginning.
Do not speak up out of frustration or even take the situation personally. It is said that you transform into another person when you have a new haircut, but don’t allow that to be transferred to your personality at the salon!